Since it’s Valentine’s Day, the word romance is in the air! But do we really know what true romance is anymore? Or have we given ourselves a definition that limits romance to exaggerated and expensive gifts and trips that leads to hot and passionate sexual intimacy? Don’t get me wrong, I love to whisk my wife away on private jets to remote islands, give her obnoxiously large diamonds, and make love to her on the beach for hours and hours (heavy sarcasm intended). But with the images and expectations of our media-driven culture this is what it feels as though is expected for an everyday couple.
Is true romance only meant for those who can afford it? Or is it something simpler that, when applied regularly, can result in a reignited passion between you and your partner? Let’s check the definition of this loaded word and see if we can learn anything from the source.
Romance (def.) – a quality or feeling of mystery, excitement, and remoteness from everyday life
At its core, romance is using our imaginations to give our partners an experience that breaks up the monotony of our everyday lives and provides some variety that is focused on showing them how much we love and care for them. So, with this definition as our guide it’s much easier to see how we can spice up our relationships in simple and meaningful ways.
So, here are 5 ways to rekindle the romance in your relationship every single day (not just on Valentine’s Day).
How to make your relationship last in a world where they seem to be so expendable
Since the dawn of time mankind has never been satisfied with just being a “me,” he’s always wanted to be part of a “we.” That’s the power of relationships in our lives. They give us the opportunity to be a part of something bigger than just ourselves.
You’d think with all the human advancements in psychology over the past 200 years we’d all be having great relationships by now and enjoying our spouses and significant others at high levels every single day. But that’s not the case, is it? In fact, the divorce rate suggests that relationships are becoming more and more disposable in our world, not less. Why do you think this is?
I think these statistics are telling us something that we can no longer refuse to ignore. Because it’s so easy to leave a marriage with our relaxed legal standards, the bar has been raised on relationships and people are no longer willing to settle for less when we know there must be more.
So how do we make our relationships last in a world where they seem to be so expendable? By going straight to the heart of why most relationships never last – love.
Influence. It is something we all desire but few of us master. Something we all want but few of us grasps. To have more of it means that we are able to peacefully persuade others to take action. To have less of it means that we are constantly battling with others to get them to see what we see and often losing.
So what if I were to tell you that there’s only one thing you must do to massively increase your influence today? And what if that one thing was so simple that you could change it without any real mind-blowing effort on your part?
Sound interesting? Then read on to discover how to massively increase your influence in every relationship today!
Blame is the oldest game that people play. If there is one thing that seems to keep us stuck in our stories and hold us back from achieving our dreams it has to be blame.
Every time we play the blame game, we are focusing on what we cannot control instead of tapping into our personal power. In the end, if we want to grow into our greatness we absolutely must get beyond blame.
Helping people accomplish their goals as a coach has afforded me the opportunity to see this blame game play out in many different ways. Of course, it has also given me the ability to see the major patterns of how people play it.
So, here are the 3 most identifiable patterns of blame that I’ve seen in people’s lives (and, of course, my own) and how to get beyond them.
My wife Lisa and I are celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary this week and we’ve found ourselves in the stage of our relationship where people are now consistently asking us, “How do you do it?” Well, the answer to that question will probably defy conventional advice. But then we’ve never been much for doing what everyone else is doing anyway!
Making a marriage that lasts isn’t rocket science, but it does require a real shift in the way you think about this closest of relationships.
Are you ready to rethink what it means to be married?
If so, then here are three truths that will help your marriage last.